39 Things I Wish I Knew At 39

For the past decade, I’ve shared my life online. The pivots, the progress, the parts that looked confident from the outside and messy up close (wayyy too many tears, tbh). Every version of me was real, even when she was still figuring things out. Now, as I turn 39, I feel like I’m on the verge of something new, but the life decisions of the past few years have me feeling unsure.

This birthday didn’t call for a highlight reel or a list of accomplishments. It asked for honesty. The kind that comes from the lived experience of a 39-year-old woman who has lived many lives.

This post is a collection of 39 things I know at 39. Honest truths about aging, money, boundaries, community, and becoming someone you trust. If you’re in your 30s (or headed there), I hope this feels less like instruction and more like company.