Over the past couple weeks I feel like I’ve finally embraced my womanhood.
I’ve always been mature in thought and I’ve always surrounded myself with people who help me grow as a person but it takes some intense life experiences to help guide you to become the person you were always meant to be. After all, it’s when you’re faced with adversity that people can either flourish or be defeated.
I know a lot of you reading my blog are much younger than I am and still have a lot of life experience left to go through before you’re able to fully understand the person you were destined to be. Heck, I still have a lot of growth myself but at 27, I can finally say that I am proud to be the person I am.
Think about that for a second - for someone to be genuinely happy and proud of themselves is a feat, especially in a society that measures self worth through ‘likes’ and retweets. When did we become the generation who aspires to be ‘instagram famous’ rather than aspire to obtain an education? Ugh, another topic for another time, but we can do better folks.
My most recent heartbreak has helped me to appreciate and embrace my personality: independent, rational, sarcastic, driven, headstrong, sassy, brutally honest and occasionally naughty. I’m an introvert with extravert tendencies; I am not afraid to speak my mind; I believe that as women, we hold all the power; and I have no problem demanding respect.
Because of this I’ve been called a ‘bitch’, ‘overly emotional’, and most recently ‘crazy’ and ‘psycho’. Since coming into my 27 year old ‘womanhood’, I find that being called these names don’t bother me. I know they are coming from a place of insecurity and frankly, a lioness doesn’t concern herself with the opinions of sheep.
I have received many emails explaining that through my posts and videos some of you have come to view me as a role model. Believe me when I say this - I take that title very seriously and I am more than happy to be that person for you. I appreciate that you all view me as someone who embodies strength, courage and transparency. I’ve spent a lifetime growing into the person my parents raised my brother and I to be, someone of quality, and I’m grateful to inspire you all to be that way too.
There is no right way to be a person of quality and people can define ‘quality’ differently. We all have different paths, experiences and beliefs that shape the way we see the world and view ourselves. I’ve spent many nights reflecting on my life in order to become the best version of myself. This isn’t something that just happens, it takes a conscious effort every day to be someone you’d be proud of.
Don't be one of those people who think they are too good for personal growth. I know people like this and it breaks my heart because their false sense of entitlement is getting in the way of their own happiness.
It doesn’t matter who you are, or what you did, you can always change to become a better version of yourself. I am strong because I’ve been weak. I am fearless because I’ve been afraid. I have no regrets because I’ve learned my lessons. Appreciate the twists and turns that life will send your way because one day you'll be able to look back at it all and say 'Thank you'. #AjasArmy
the big dang theory: strive for growth, not perfection